First, don't use the memory buttons on the drivers's seat for you or your husband any longer. Pretend they are not there.

Get in the car, turn on the ignition, and adjust the seat and side mirrors to your preferred positions. You may have to drive on a road to find the best mirror positions. Now, exit the car and lock all doors with your key fob. Hide that fob from your husband.

Now, have your husband repeat the same steps, locking the car with HIS key fob. It doesn't matter how he initially unlocks the car.

Whenever you are about to drive, use only YOUR key fob to unlock the car. The seats and mirror will adjust to your position as immediately after you open the Driver's door. Likewise, your husband should use only HIS fob to unlock the car when he is about to drive.

Some couples store both fobs in the same place, leading to mixups. The car only recognizes you by your fob.

Here is a step not in the Owners' Manual. Even if the car is not locked, depress the unlock button on your fob before opening the driver's door. Some owners keep their car in a locked garage, so do not lock it.

An aside . . . never leave the key in the ignition for more than a few minutes with the car off. It triggers the anti-theft system, which can run down the battery quickly. Leaving it in while you pump gas is OK, but if a Valet parking attendant leaves it in while you attend a movie, you may not be able to start it without a "jump".

If the process outlined above fails to work, it is time to talk to your dealer. As some others have discovered, you car may not include the memory mirror option.